It Is You

"It's not you, its me."

This seems very cliche, but it is true.

It IS you.

Before you throw your phone across the room and bury your sorrows in a pint of chapman's rocky road, let me finish!

Your relationship with yourself affects all of your relationships.

Do you have family members who don’t respect your boundaries?

Do you friends who you betray your trust or constantly flake on you?

Do you keep attracting guys into your life that don’t treat you very well?

“Why can’t I find a nice guy? I have terrible luck. All the good ones are taken.”

It’s easy to fall victim in the situations and most of the time when someone’s experiencing this they feel absolutely helpless.

But you do have a choice…

What you decide to tolerate and put up with teaches others how to treat you.

So if you constantly keep holding out for the friend that always bails out on plans at the last minute, or you’re constantly answering texts from a fuck boy at 2 am you are teaching these people that it’s OK to treat you this way.

Set boundaries.

And if people don’t respect these boundaries a simple, “Thank you. Next.” will do.

When you waste time on people who don’t respect your boundaries, you lose out on time with people who are willing to give you the love and respect that you deserve.